In the recent articles I found how women are debating about what other women should do. Someone advocating how a woman should not leave her job because just sitting at home and especially working in the kitchen won’t prove her worth. Another woman guiding how to a good mother that implies if you don’t follow several bullet points then you are a bad mother. Well I did quit my job and I know very well how important I’m for myself. But the maid who cleans my house and the other neighborhood everyday with her children at home posses equal worth and there is no comparison between two us. There is no woman versus woman here, we both do what’s right for us. The charming lady living next door to my place has her own individuality even though she is less educated than the rest. And that lonely, stubborn never- married lady who lives on the 6th floor, she made her own choices in life and is no way inferior to anyone. With all these examples I want to present a wider perspective of the woman which can’t be just fit in one single frame..
Have you ever read in the newspapers about a selective dress code for women or those jolty do’s and don’t. What do you think is Men the only reason behind these restrictions? ? NO, there are women who admit and live those rules and believe in them and hence they also suggest what other women should do.. Let’s take things this way, how many of you would agree that a girl should be virgin before her marriage? ? Well I bet many will say that she should be. Why? Because this is what we feel is right and so we impose same values on others but what about an innocent girl cheated by her beloved and now left alone or someone who’s boyfriend has died or someone who simply wanted to explore her inhibitions?? So we are good to put self-judged right and wrong in it and then as a Woman we shout that its a Male – dominated society..Well that’s true our society is male- supreme but we as women are responsible too and we can’t turn our back on the plea of today’s women. We need to face it!
Don’t forget we live in a society where a woman directs her son to rape a girl just to seek revenge! There are men who throw acid on poor girls but there are mothers who seek mercy for such evil sons without any remorse. Even when India’s real beauty is dusky, we avoid such girls to be the bride of our Sons. Being pregnant, many women still pray to have a boy at first not just because Men want it but there are other women in the family and they want a son too. Jargons like ‘Mama-Boy’or ‘Biwi Ka Ghulam’is not only used by Men but Women too. A woman also raises her eye if another Woman flaunts her toned body in tight-fit dress walking alongwith her baby, She thinks she should not do that, why?? A 50 year old lady has equal rights to marry as a 20 year old girl has in our country so why to raise our eyebrows. A lady with 2 kids can end her marriage if it’s hell for her and we need not to frame our opinions at her . I think this is right so others should believe that this is right.
So before we change the Man we need to accept the change. Our eyes need to accept length of the skirt of someone’s daughter. Our mentality needs to mature while judging a woman as orthodox just on the grounds of her saree, bindi and her household skills, her intellect might be superior than us. Let a woman live happily if she doesn’t want to marry someone or have kids, she might be perfect too in her own way. Let a mother enjoy her life nonetheless she is working or cooking chappatis at home. Our idea of an ideal women needs to be widened. Don’t presume a Woman is perfect who handles both job and home but may be someone who is volunteering her life for others. Let a woman make her own choices like a free bird..If she asks for her wings, bestow on her the entire sky!!